Friday, January 6, 2012

You need to know About the CMA Award Trophy

The Country Music Association (CMA) Awards, commonly referred to as CMAS, held annually to celebrate the best new song and album by country musicians and groups. This association was founded in 1958 in Nashville, Tennessee and originally consisted of 233 members. Currently, the association is composed of more than 6,000 music professionals from more than 40 countries around the world. The goal is to guide and enhance the musical development of countries around the world, using it as a practical yet powerful medium for advertisers, media, and consumers, and to provide a unified idea or purpose in the country music industry. The award ceremony itself was broadcast live on television during the fall, around October-November. The award is given in several categories, including Entertainer of the Year, Single of the Year, Album of the Year, Song of the Year, Female and Male Vocalist of the Year, and also New Artist of the Year.

However, the first two CMA Awards ceremony is broadcast on TV. The first was held in the Auditorium of the City, Nashville, Tennessee in 1967. The Entertainer of the Year at that time went to Eddy Arnold. CMAS that was first aired on TV in 1969, and since 1978, has been broadcast on both TV and radio. To determine the winner from each category, CMA members must go through three rounds of voting process overseen by an international accounting firm Deloitte & Touche. In the first round, the members of the association nominate 20 nominees for each category. In the second half, they must choose five of the 20 candidates and those 5 are the ones who will be presented for final voting round. In the final round, they have to choose one candidate from each category as the winner of each category.

The winner of each category will take home a crystal Award Trophy subtle Italy. However, the CMA Award Trophy awarded during the first made of walnut wood and marble. This combination indicates the warmth of country music, strength, and endurance. Each award trophy features a satin brass nameplate bearing the name and category winners. CMA Awards are highly prestigious event which musicians of all countries and groups expect to have their names attached to the Award Trophy. Awarded the CMA will increase their popularity and hence their careers.

Thursday, January 5, 2012

Get a good lifts Television

A TV lift is a simple device that causes your TV to automatically emerge from the custom cabinets or other structures in the gentle movements until fully visible. It is operated by remote control and can even turn to adjust the position of the viewer. Benefits of using the elevator television including keeping your home clutter-free and keep your components safe and secure.

Almost all TV sizes can be accommodated by a television lifts, from the smaller screens used on yachts to large plasma screens in home theaters. Lift can also be installed for the speakers and other equipment, keep the house free of unsightly electronics. It is highly desirable for the home that support aesthetic, sleek modern style.

When you look at the purchase of TV lifts here are a few things to remember :
  • If you're in the process of building a house, talk to your contractor about lifting accommodate your television in every room you intend to use it. 
  • In the existing structure, looking for ways to incorporate your television lift into existing furniture or architecture. 
  • If you need to have a customization done to accommodate up your TV, find a contractor who has done this work on the types of projects in the past to ensure a smooth integration. 
  • Make sure the equipment you buy is designed to handle the size and weight of your own components. 
  • Purchase of television equipment to lift you from, the reputation of having manufacturers such as Inca Corporation. 
  • A TV lift is a wonderful way to add value to your home and protect your expensive TV. It is also one of the most effective way to add real interest to your home.

The 12V Actuator

In this modern age, people can easily produce energy source by using devices that can control the production of energy. People use energy to generate power that can help them run any application that they have. One of the examples of the device that you can use to generate electricity is called 12v actuator. This actuator is powered by 12v power generator device that can help you produce energy that you need. If you are running a household appliance which require power generator, actuator can work for that purpose.

It is easy to generate any kind of potential energy that is useful for your daily needs. You can use actuator that is specified to many kinds of form. There are electric actuator, kinetic actuator, and other devices which work the same to convert energy to other form of energy that you need. With actuator you can manage easily your power generator so that you don’t have to worry when you have electronic shortage. You can now shop actuator and other products related with energy conversion easily online. By shopping your device online you will be able to shop various types of actuators easily and you can do it in the convenience of your house.  

Friday, December 30, 2011

Advantages And Disadvantages Of Business Line of Credit

Your partner will put up all the money and you can split the profits. In this case you give a large part of your profits. Sometimes your partner may want to half of the profits. There are better ways to help homeowners in foreclosure and still keep all the profits for yourself. Unsecured Line of  Credit is the secret weapon that many investors use to play the game pre-foreclosure and foreclosure and make truckloads of money.

This is a business line of credit that are not attached to your investment and are not reported on your credit unless you default.


Lending institutions are basically giving you a check book and trust that you will use it wisely.

Credit card service does not offer small business loans to their clients based on the average monthly credit card sales, without any collateral. Sales average credit card monthly guarantee your company's ability to pay for small business loans. Payments will be automatically deducted as a percentage of future credit card sales. This arrangement frees you from worrying about the amortization for your small business loan

Saturday, October 22, 2011

Relationship Addiction and Co Dependency Counseling

Relationship addiction is becoming recognised more and more as a serious problem requiring careful co-dependency counselling. Co-dependency in general terms means two parties in a relationship based on a mutual dependency. Most relationships have a mutual level of healthy dependency. However, some relationships can become addictive, toxic and extremely unhealthy to the point where the relationship addiction begins to affect both parties negatively.
What is Co-Dependency?
Co-dependency or relationship addiction is when one or both people in a relationship become literally dependent on the other. Drugs, compulsive behaviour or other destructive habits from one person in a relationship can affect the other person to such a degree that they find themselves acting out on co-dependency.
Often when a person is involved in a close relationship, whether it is friendship, a romantic relationship, a family member or a spouse, if the other half of that relationship begins to self destruct in some way, that person becomes co-dependent. Some even believe it is the unavoidable consequence of a person's obsessive and compulsive behaviour - the people close to them become co-dependent.
For someone in the traps of co-dependency, life is far from free and simple. It is a binding prison of fear, obsession and compulsion. Void of the freedom of choice, the co-dependent finds themselves helpless and driven to look after and control the other person in the relationship. A search for affirmation and complete dependence on the other person for a reason to do anything leads them to insane and unstable behaviour.
Many relationships are mutually co-dependent. Both parties are addicted to the other half of the partnership and become almost like a single person. Co-dependents who have a relationship addiction will find themselves taking on the personality of the other person, sacrificing their own likes, tastes and wellbeing to keep their attachment safe from harm. Co-dependents manage to convince themselves that they are happy - that bowing to the other person's needs and likes makes them happy, but it is truly driven by an immense fear of rejection and terror of losing that person.
Treatment for Co-Dependency
Usually a person needing treatment for co-dependency or relationship addiction issues has other addictions such as drug addiction or eating disorders. Co-dependency is viewed as a disease of the same nature as drug addiction or alcoholism. It is an obsessive and compulsive disease, characterised by powerless behaviour and major consequences. There is no cure, however a programme of recovery can help the co-dependent arrest their condition and begin to piece a life together that is self-loving and caring.
Treatment for co-dependency will usually happen when a person seeks help for another addiction and their co-dependency becomes a major problem. Typically, when a person has the disease of addiction, if one destructive behaviour is ceased, another will manifest, and this can often be co-dependency. However, there are those who seek help from co-dependency alone as this is the only addictive behaviour with which they struggle.
Upon starting recovery for a co-dependency addiction, a person will need to separate completely from the person on whom they are dependent. Even though the person who is the object of a co-dependents control is what they are addicted to, the problem lies within the co-dependent. Establishing abstinence of the person is not the cure by any means and it is abnormal for a person in a relationship to cut the other half off and never see them again.
What Needs to Change
The behaviour is the addiction and once the person is able to abstain from the addictive behaviour, the deeper issues can be explored in therapy and co-dependency counselling.
In a treatment centre, a co-dependent will usually receive counselling on a one to one basis and also group therapy. A good programme of daily recovery is a twelve step programme, where the co-dependent can attend daily meetings, work with a sponsor who is more experienced in recovery, work the steps and trust in a higher power.
Self-love is extremely important for a co-dependent to establish in becoming healthy and able to have nontoxic relationships again. A healthy lifestyle with healthy eating and exercise is vital in the process of a co-dependent becoming a self-respecting and independent person as it is an important aspect of growing a person's self esteem.
Co-dependency can allow a person to give up their life for another in the sense that they lose all inclination of who they are and what they are doing with their life. The end result leaves the co-dependent as a shell without control over their emotions or actions and is a heartbreaking sight to see. Yet with treatment, therapy, a healthy lifestyle and a daily programme of recovery, their spirit can be healed and the addiction arrested so they may go on to have healthy and productive relationships.

The Pain of Codependency - "Addicted to Love"

Ever have trouble letting go of a relationship? Obsessed with another person? Way too loyal, to the point where it hurts you and possibly others who care about you? Are others who are dependent on you, even your children, getting hurt because you are keeping yourself and them in a destructive, even dangerous relationship? Are your friends offering suggestions that you immediately reject? Or are you avoiding telling anyone what is really going on? Embarrassed by the behavior of the one you love? Embarrassed by your own behavior? Do you find ways to distort what your therapist says and discount his/her knowledge by saying, to him and/or to yourself, "you just don't understand!"
Think you can change someone?
If only you are good enough, he/she would not have that affair. If only you can meet his/her needs, he/she will love you and not need to go elsewhere. Maybe if you lose a few pounds or cook his favorite meal perfectly, he will come home instead of "working late" ...you know he is with another woman. If you bring her flowers more often and take her to the best restaurants in town, maybe THEN she will stop seeing the rich man who comes into town once a month. The pain you feel when you are together in public and he/she is flirting with other men/women has only made your own self-hatred increase.
Some people even think they can make another person stop drinking or abusing drugs! Or lose weight. Or stop gambling. Or stop working 60 hours a week and skiing the rest. Same scenario as above: the "co-dependent" is dependent on the behavior of others for his/her sense of self. He/she continues to get his/her sense of self from the behavior of the person he/she is dependent on. How many people do you know who have tried to help or make someone else stop drinking or drugging? Children and spouses, lovers and friends, all over the world, are known to hide alcohol or pour it out. They try joining the drinker and hoping he will limit it to two or three drinks. They try threatening to leave the relationship, but always change their minds at the last minute. They try having dinner ready when he walks through the door. They lose themselves in their focus on the alcoholic/addict/dysfunctional person they "love." They are convinced that if they only do the right thing at the right time, if they are only good enough, they will be able to change the other person. Codependents loose themselves; they become oblivious to their own value as separate human beings.
What is this? Sounds like addiction. Yup. Addiction to a PERSON! Addiction to trying to fix someone or fix a relationship. It is NOT your fault that you are obsessed with trying to do this! You are not a bad person. You probably grew up in a chaotic household, or maybe an alcoholic or abusive one, or came from an unprocessed divorce, or even a rigid, dogmatic setting. Any of these childhood scenarios can produce a wonderful human being who has an addiction ... in this case, to a person.
There is a solution. Other people recovering from the same thing can help; a therapist knowledgeable about addiction can help. There are LOTS of books on recovery from codependency. There are no absolutes regarding to stay or not to stay in the relationship with the addict, unless there is overt physical or sexual abuse, or child abuse. There IS help in getting a sense of self, some level of self-esteem, and a life not dependent on the behavior of the other person, whether or not he/she gets recovery and whether or not you stay in the relationship.

Typical Kinds of Love Addicts

In the last decade, a lot has changed in the world of love addiction. Not that love addiction itself has changed. It is pretty much the same insidious disorder it always has been. What has changed is how the world looks at it. Twenty years ago, our understanding of love addiction was still emerging out of our understanding of codependency. Therefore, love addiction and codependency seemed to be one in the same. However, today we understand that this is not true. Love addiction stands alone, and codependency is only one of several underlying personality disorders. To make it perfectly clear how one love addict differs from another, here is a list:
Obsessed Love Addicts (OLAs) cannot let go, even if their partners are:
Unavailable emotionally or sexually; afraid to commit; cannot communicate;unloving;distant; abusive; controlling and dictatorial; ego-centric; selfish; or addicted to something outside the relationship (hobbies, drugs, alcohol, sex, someone else, gambling, shopping etc.)
Codependent Love Addicts (CLAs) are the most widely recognized. They fit a pretty standard profile. Most of them suffer from low self-esteem and have a certain predictable way of thinking, feeling and behaving. This means that from a place of insecurity and low self-esteem, they try desperately to hold on to the people they are addicted to using codependent behavior. This includes enabling, rescuing, caretaking, passive-aggressive controlling, and accepting neglect or abuse. In general, CLAs will do anything to "take care" of their partners in the hope that they will not leave-or that someday they will reciprocate.
Relationship Addicts (RAs), unlike other love addicts, are no longer in love with their partners but they cannot let go. Usually, they are so unhappy that the relationship is usually affecting their health, spirit and emotional well being. Even if their partner batters them, and they are in danger, they cannot let go. They are afraid of being alone. They are afraid of change. They do not want to hurt or abandon their partners. This can be described as "I hate you don't leave me."
Narcissistic Love Addicts (NLAs) use dominance, seduction and withholding to control their partners. Unlike codependents, who accept a lot of discomfort, narcissists won't put up with anything that interferes with their happiness. They are self-absorbed and their low self-esteem is masked by their grandiosity. Furthermore, rather than seeming to obsess about the relationship, NLAs appear aloof and unconcerned. They do not appear to be addicted at all. Rarely do you even know that NLAs are hooked until you try to leave them. Then they will no longer be aloof and uncaring. They will panic and use anything at their disposal to hold on to the relationship-including violence. Many professionals have rejected the idea that narcissists can be love addicts. This may be because they rarely come in for treatment. However, if you have ever seen how some narcissists react to perceived or real abandonment, you will see that they are indeed "hooked."
Ambivalent Love Addicts (ALAs suffer) from avoidant personality disorder-or what SLAA calls emotional anorexia. They don't have a hard time letting go, they have a hard time moving forward. They desperately crave love, but at the same time they are terrified of intimacy. This combination is agonizing. ALAs come in different forms too. They are listed below.
Torch Bearers are ALAs who obsess about someone who is unavailable. This can be done without acting out (suffering in silence) or by pursuing the person they are in love with. Some torch bearers are more addicted than others. This kind of addiction feeds on fantasies and illusions. It is also known as unrequited love.
Saboteurs are ALAs who destroy relationships when they start to get serious or at whatever point their fear of intimacy comes up. This can be anytime-before the first date, after the first date, after sex, after the subject of commitment comes up-whenever.
Seductive Withholders are ALAs who always come on to you when they want sex or companionship. When they become frightened, or feel unsafe, they begin withholding companionship, sex, affection-anything that makes them feel anxious. If they leave the relationship when they become frightened, they are just Saboteurs. If they keep repeating the pattern of being available/unavailable, they are seductive withholders.
Romance Addicts are ALA who are addicted to multiple partners. Unlike sex addicts, who are trying to avoid bonding altogether, romance addicts bond with each of their partners-to one degree or another- even if the romantic liaisons are short-lived or happening simultaneously. By "romance" I mean sexual passion and pseudo emotional intimacy. Please note that while romance addicts bond with each of their partners to a degree, their goal (besides getting high off of romance and drama) is to avoid commitment or bonding on a deeper level with one partner. Often romance addicts are confused with sex addicts.
A Note about ALAs: Not all avoidants are love addicts. If you accept your fear of intimacy and social situations, and do not get hooked on unavailable people, or just keep your social circle small and unthreatening you are not necessarily an ALA. But if you eat your heart out over some unavailable person year after year, or sabotage one relationship after another, or have serial romantic affairs, or only feel close when you are with another avoidant, you may be an Ambivalent Love Addict.
Combinations: You may find that you have more than one type of love addiction. Many of these types overlap and combine themselves with other behavioral problems. For instance, you may be a codependent, alcoholic love addict. Or a love/relationship addict. The important thing is to identify your own personal profile so you know what you are dealing with.
Robert was a love addict, relationship addict, romance addict and sex addict. He was married but did not want to divorce his wife of twenty years even though he was not in love with her (relationship addiction) His hobby was masturbating to pornography when his wife was not home (sex addiction). He had affairs with several other women simultaneously without his wife finding out. He really cared about each of these women (romance addict). One day he met Jennifer and fell in love with her. It did not take long before he was obsessed with her. She did not want to be with him because he was married, so he began stalking and harassing her (love addict). Robert finally got into recovery, divorced his wife, gave up the pornography and affairs and married the woman he was obsessed with. At first his jealousy was out of control, but after a few years of therapy and 12-Step meetings he began to trust his new wife. Because she was mature, well-grounded and had high self esteem, the relationship began to normalize. Today, all of Robert's addictions are in remission.
Narcissists and Codependents: It is very common for love addicts to end up in relationships with other love addicts. The most common kind of love-addicted couple is, as you might have guessed, the codependent and the narcissist. In the beginning, narcissists are often seductive. After they have hooked their codependent partners, however, they change. Here is an example of a narcissist/codependent relationship.
Nancy and James met at a bar and were instantly attracted to one another. Within days, Nancy (the codependent) had fallen madly in love with James (the narcissist). From the beginning, she was helpful, nurturing, attentive and went out of her way to make him happy. James, on the other hand, appeared to be able to take or leave the relationship after they made love. He canceled dates, neglected to return phone calls, saw other women, became very domineering and for the most part seemed aloof and detached. Still, six months later, Nancy married James because she was in love with him and secretly hoped that he would change.
After Nancy and James were married, the pattern of neglect continued-especially his affairs with other women. When Nancy objected, James bullied her until she stopped nagging him about it. This went on for years. Nancy tried to save her marriage by placating James in every way she could think of, but he continued to do what he wanted. Eventually, Nancy stopped loving James and thought about leaving him, but she just couldn't bring herself to face the loneliness of being single again. This was better than nothing she thought. So she continued her codependent behavior, always trying to keep James happy and comfortable even if it meant sacrificing her own happiness in the process. Eventually, Nancy sought counseling and within a year she felt strong enough to leave James. He had other ideas. The first time Nancy brought up the subject of divorce he laughed at her. Then he threatened her verbally. The day she presented him with divorce papers, he beat her so badly she had to go to the hospital. It seems that despite his lack of love and respect for Nancy, James was addicted to her and the relationship they shared. He also felt that if he couldn't have her, nobody else could.
Eventually, Nancy got away from James even though he stalked her for months-threatening to kill her if she didn't come back. Thankfully, he eventually let go. However, you only have to read the newspapers to realize that such a lethal combination of codependency and narcissism can lead to homicide.
Switch-hitting: Many love addicts switch-hit because they have more than one underlying personality disorder. For instance, a relationship addict may play the role of a codependent for years, then finally get out of the relationship and fall in love with someone who is unavailable. Suddenly, our relationship addict is an obsessed love addict or a torchbearer. Even narcissists switch-hit-believe it or not. For years they be in one relationship after another playing the role of the dominant, uncaring partner. However, if they ever fall hard, they can easily turn into a torchbearer or obsessed love addict. If they fall in love with another narcissist then they have no choice but to become the codependent love addict in the relationship because the narcissist will not stand for anything else. Even ambivalent love addicts will start obsessing instead of running away when they are addicted.
Love addicts switch-hit because of separation anxiety. If another form of behavior is necessary to placate a partner and to hold on the him or her, the love addict will adopt that behavior. Is it an act? Sometimes... but if the love addict has weak personality boundaries, they may actually become the other person while under the spell of the addiction.. The point here is not to identify all the kinds of switch-hitting going on, or to even explain it, but o point it out and learn from it.
Conclusion: The Importance of All This: If all this seems complicated it is. And, to be honest, the only reason it is important is because it makes a difference when it comes to treatment. Codependent love addicts, for instance, need a boost in self-esteem and self-acceptance. They must learn to think better of themselves. Narcissistic love addicts, on the other hand, use grandiosity to bolster their low self-esteem and need to come down to earth. They need to learn some humility and how to become "unselfish." Ambivalent Love Addicts need to find a healthy relationship and stay engaged it even when their fear threatens to overwhelm them. Most of all, understanding as much as you can about love addiction will form the basis of your Fourth Step Inventory in LAA or lay the groundwork for professional therapy.